I am no longer feeling guilty for these 10 things
The world is a strange place sometimes.
On the one hand, I am very excited about the direction of my life lately. I’ve taken some steps outside of my comfort zone, and I have seen how that approach can bear fruit. I’ve currently struck a balance with the right amount of workload, the excited to get out of bed in the morning kind of busy.
But even so, there are still some annoying little moments creeping in. Even when I wake up excited for the day ahead, there are times that I just cannot kick it into gear or I cannot muster any creativity whatsoever. Other days, I may feel like an indirect comment towards me was a snub, and it lingers in the back of my head for too long.
But recently I have learned that if you feel like what you are working towards is genuinely the right path for you, then it becomes easier and easier to brush aside the little things that are insignificant. So I made a list, and a promise to myself, of 10 things that I am going to stop letting bring guilt. (Things we all should!)
01 Tuning out for a day
We need days for respite and renewal, as well as new experiences to give us a fresh perspective. We cannot work well if all we do is work. I recently posted about how a lack of productivity can wrongly bring on a dip in our self-worth and guilt. If you struggle with this concept, read here about how to separate your self-worth from your productivity.
02 Going to bed early
It took me a long time to realize who I was as a person. I now know that my best work gets accomplished in the morning and I become useless after 3 PM. I am not a night owl, but instead, I like those special and quiet moments in the morning before the rest of world is awake. Find whatever rhythm works for you and embrace it.
03 Not Working the Traditional 9-5
In this digital age, there are so many alternative ways to working. Sometimes I work less than 40 hours per week, sometimes I work 60 hours. It just depends what I am working on at any given time. We are lucky enough to live in a time where we can forge our own path. I have learned that when you do not perfectly fit into someone else’s idea of what a work week should look like, it makes them extremely uncomfortable. That is their problem though, not yours.
04 Not saying yes to every social obligation
We increase the risk of running ourselves ragged when we say yes to everything. I am making an effort to be more mindful about what I say yes to, as well as intentionally carving out downtime in my schedule.
05 Not being extroverted enough
I love when I witness somebody that is a great public speaker or an excellent performer. I am always in awe of how seemingly easy it appears to them, while I can feel my pulse racing at just the mere thought of myself doing the same thing. We should appreciate people who have different talents than us instead of criticizing ourselves for what we lack. I would like to think that somebody would reach out to me, not for a public speaking opportunity, but for someone who needed a nice one-on-one conversation with listening ears. There is value in that too.
06 Not taking advantage of a sunny day
It is a strange statement to make, but I don’t particularly love sunny days, at least not every single day. I find that I draw more inspiration from moody landscapes and dark, rainy days. There is no pressure and the world slows its pace. Those are the times and places that fit my soul and I feel most like myself. If this sounds like you too, read this.
07 Being intentional with who I spend my time with
We are already too busy. Life is too short to spend time with those who bring negative feelings or who don’t promote growth within you.
08 Wanting to bag my own groceries
Admittedly, this is a weird one but deserves attention nonetheless. There is so much in our lives that we have absolutely no control over. I really like all my produce in the same bag, frozen in another, staples in a third. Does the weight distribution make sense this way? No, but I don’t care. Take the little wins when you can get them.
09 Staying home
I've often written about how spending time in Scandinavia has affected me. After traveling there, I've pored over books and enjoyed learning more about their lifestyle and how I can apply it to aspects of my life. There is so much to be appreciated with a cooked meal with local ingredients, close friends, and candlelit conversation, all in the comforts of home.
10 Wanting Solitude
If we are constantly in the company of others, we never have time to learn about ourselves - to analyze why something made us feel a certain way, or to try and understand something from a different perspective than our friends. Without solitude, we are at risk of forgetting who we are.
Have I missed anything? Is there anything you are vowing to feel less guilty about? I would love to hear! x